Which comes first?
The Photo? or The Resume?
Personally, I'm not a fan of either. I like it when a friend, or someone who knows me well calls me to tell me that she knows this guy and she thinks its shayach, or she just met a guy and she thinks its shayach, etc.
BUT-in this day and age of resumes, photos, emails, online chatting and online dating, which comes first?
So, according to most people I've been in touch with-you get the resume first, look into that person and then get the picture.
Sometimes, shadchanim will ask for both at the same time, etc. Some people have their photo included in their resume.
HOWEVER, if a shadchan would call you and say, 'they would like to see a photo first and if they're interested, I'll be in touch with you to ask for a resume'...would you be insulted?
If you're thinking to yourself 'who actually does that?!?!' my friend was asked to send her resume to a shadchan last week. She sent it in and didn't hear back. That same week, she had a wedding. The Shadchan called her up the day of the wedding and asked if she was invited. When she said she was invited, the Shadchan told her to dress up and look her best as the parents of the guy were going to be at the same wedding and they wanted to see what she looked like. She went to the wedding and afterwards, when she was in touch with the Shadchan to ask what happened the Shadchan told her-she passed inspection. They found her to be very pretty.
When she asked for the guy's info, the Shadchan told her, well the mother wanted to first see how she looked and now that she approves, NOW she will start looking at the resume...
I guess in her case-'the Photo' (or live visual) came first!