I'm NOT referring to drugs here. Nor am I talkin about taking up smoking. I'm takin bout being honest, getting back to people and moving on.
Don't know what I mean? Lemme give it to ya plain and simple.
A Shadchan calls and tells you that someone is 'looking into you' and asks for some more references, info, etc. You give over all your 411 and are informed that the Shadchan will be in touch with you once she hears back from the 'other side', so that it will be your turn to do the background checks.
So one day passes by, then the next and slowly but surely (unless you're having the time of your life-hence the saying "time flies...") day 3 comes and goes.
Do you call the Shadchan? Does it sound desperate? If no one calls back, does that mean they got a "No" and you should just 'get the hint and move on?'
Don'tcha just hate being 'in limbo'? It's one of the worst feelings=not knowing. Not knowing if there was a "no", not knowing if maybe they're still running your license plates on their hacked research programs, not knowing if perhaps they were out of town for a week. Not knowing what to tell other people who call and ask 'are you busy',..... just not knowing.
And dear readers, I, SOS, have the solution and will be most honored to share it with all of you today. The key to avoiding this problem is simple: if you're not interested, simply CALL BACK and tell the shadchan 'No'. (ok, you can pepper it up with some kind adjectives and apologetic mannerisms). If you get the machine, leave a message, or call back to make sure that they GOT the message. But just get back EITHER way with an answer. Don't leave people hanging. No one enjoys being left in the lurch.
Trust me, I'd rather get a straightout "no", then wait around for a few days wondering...