DISCLAIMER: It you have not yet begun dating, do NOT read below, it will TAINT your mind and change your opinion regarding the fun of dating!
OK, let's face it, dear readers, most of you are 'of shidduch age' and have been 'in the parsha' for quite a while now. As someone whose been on the dating scene for quite a while, let's be honest=it SUX! Yes I'm not gonna paint the Shidduch scene as a nice rosy place where you get to get your hair/nails/makeup done and get new outfits for each date, etc. and you have sooo much fun spending hours with a total stranger if he even turns out to be decent. So aside all the stuff you havta go through, including but not limited to: the phonecalls/faxes/email, investigations, references, traveling reservations=for us out of towners, finding suitable replacements to cover while you're away, finding a place to go to (if the guy asks you to in advance, or if he comes to your out of town city, or JUST IN CASE he goes somewhere really lame and you need an emergency "outer"), choosing the 'right' outfit (weather permitting, fancy or casual, too tznius or a little more OUT THERE, etc.), calling the shadchan, etc. you would think you've been through enough already by just going out on a handful of dates, but NO. Society has given you the title of a 'Single' or if you're really lucky (and above the age of 18 1/2) and "Older Single". This basically means that you get the "pity vote" from most people.
What does that mean you ask? Well, here's an example. Someone from my city is getting married this week. She just turned 18 and is probably the first girl in her class. My parents received an invitation as they do business together a few times a year. Then she sends a separate invitation addressed to yours truly. why? I cannot figure out. I'm not her age, wasn't her classmate, wasn't her campmate, not her friend, not a family friend, etc. I'll tell you why, because as they go down the list of invitees, they see my parents' name and realize-oh they have a daughter...nebach she's still single...mammelleh we should send her an invitation, it would be such a big mitzvah and she wouldn't feel left out. OK, that's just how I picture it. But half the time, in these cases, i don't go to these weddings. (A) because I have nothing to do with the kallah (B) because I have nothing to do with most people going, as they have some 'shaychus' to the Kallah (C) I'm not interested in being the only one my age-group there, or one a few girls my age and having the "Im Yirtzeh Hashem By You-Soon, Soon" well-wishers.
So, perhaps, because it is Elul, I will give this Kallah the benefit of the doubt, and while I'm at it, all others as well, but I truly believe deep down and it's just a pity vote.