Monday, July 4, 2011

What is it with Weddings?

So, I've been bragging on this blog how I love June=wedding month. I still love June and I still love going to weddings (except the ones where the women line up outside the dancing circle to talk about each person, what they're wearing, how they look, etc.)
But what I just don't get is what is it with these weddings that make people sooo stupid?
Excuse me, but for lack of a better word at the moment, I just had to use the word stupid, because I don't know what else to coin it as.
I'll sum it up for you by telling you what happened at the last wedding I went to last week.
I was dancing in the circle and a guest of the wedding party came over to me. I haven't seen her in ages and she was talking to me and said she wanted me to meet someone. Well, normally I would've been hopeful, but knowing the guest and knowing the people at the wedding, let's just say I was MORTIFIED. She's the type of person that you never know what to expect. So, I sorta quickly excuse myself, praying that I could stake out in the women's washroom until she gets distracted or someone pulls her back into the dancing circle-but, no such luck.
Half an hour later, she finds me speaking with a friend outside the hall. She grabs my hand, pardons my friend and walks me to meet that 'someone'. Luckily, it wasn't some weird guy or somethin. Unluckily for me, it was a Shadchan. AND she was speaking with a woman and her daughter.
How much more awkward could the situation get? I actually knew the woman speaking to the Shadchan, her daughter is quite a few years younger than me-awkward. Even moreso, when the Shadchan finishes her 'meeting' with the woman, my wedding guests introduces us and it turns out, we met years back-awkward. So we make small talk (like, 'oh, I remember you, now, are you still looking? what's going on in ur life'-talk) and stand oddly looking around at other people, both of us waiting for an excuse to cut the meeting short.
But, as awkward as the whole thing was-I just don't get why people just don't have the brains to actually 'have these meetings' or 'small-talk's a little outside of the hall, where not everyone at the wedding has to look and see 'oh-there's SOS speaking with that Shadchan who made so-&-so's shidduch. Let's stand around and try and lip-read' or something to that effect. It makes it so much more impersonal and yes, even though weddings are in obvious time=in ur face time, when Shidduchim are totally out there and there are loads of singles (hopefully) on both sides of the mechitza looking to get married, and you're all dressed in your best, I still believe some dignity, privacy and respect is in order.
Am I wrong people?


  1. Nope, I agree with you completely. It's one thing to introduce someone to a shadchan, I think that's fair and a really good opportunity (you are dolled-up after all). But it should be a short, "Hi, nice to meet you, let me get your number and we'll be in touch another time" conversation. Beyond that, as you said, not cool.

  2. I really can't stand how so many people are happy to hack away at my dignity. Just because I am single does not mean I am willing to do everything and anything to get married.

    I am not putting my self-esteem on hold until Han Solo comes along, okay?