I got a call for Shidduch information regarding a good friend of mine a few weeks ago. I was honestly, disgusted with the woman (boy's mom) because of the questions she was asking. Yes-perhaps I am NOGEIA B'DAVAR-as this girl she was calling about, IS a very good friend of mine. But, at the same time, I'm also a single girl in Shidduchim, looking to get married and hoping I ain't gonna get a mom-in-law who cares about such stupidities and asked more questions regarding their bank account than the actual girl herself!
So here's the thing, usually when someone calls about my friend(s), I call them up and give them the lo-down on the call I had, the questions they asked, the answers I gave, and if I'm lucky-the name/number of the caller.
In the case above, I didn't even call my friend, as I was personally very disturbed about it, and I didn't want her to be hurt or disgusted with the questions.
Here, folks, is where my dilemma kicks in:
wait for it....
SHE'S ENGAGED TO THIS WOMAN'S SON!!! Yes, many weeks later they got engaged! I was shocked when I heard the name of the boy and I didn't know what to do. I mean, on one hand I'm REALLY REALLY REALLY happy for her! She's a special girl and only deserves the best, and on the other hand, do I tell her?
Being that she's a good friend, I've held back. The most I'll say (unless I'm drunk or under a hypnotic spell) is that they called me about her and I said the nicest things-which is true. But that's it. I just feel bad cuz I hope this is not a glimpse into the future of their relationship and all that her future mom-to-be will care about.
Do friends REALLY tell their friends about these calls? (especially after the fact that they tied the knot? well, not exactly tied, but still..)