Here's specifically why:
I get a name of a shadchan and call up; there is no answer, I leave a message and try calling back 3 more times to follow up with the same answering machine to leave my voicemails. As a new name, I was hoping to actually speak with new-said shadchan but why bother even giving people their number when they cannot return a call?
Second situation this week-I call up a shadchan who I communicated with before. The answering machine now states that if this is for Shidduchim, please don't leave a message-better to call between certain hours. Guess what? No one answers during those hours-trust me, I've tried.
Third such occurrence. I met a few shadchanim who, even though we've met in person and spoken by phone, have mentioned to me that they prefer communicating by emails only as it's easier (for whatever different reason they each gave) for them. So, in respect to their requests, I send a gentle email asking if they can please be in touch with me, etc. Oddly enough, even though I know the email address was spelled correctly and did send properly, not even ONE of those "shadchanim" replied. Not a 'thanks got ur email" or even a "sorry didnt reply, was busy/out of town/ lost my phone" or even something to say "have u in mind but don't have any guys YET". Not even a courteous 2 words.
So these people call themselves "shadchans". They give out emails and phone numbers but don't care to answer either their phones or emails. Their voicemails kindly ask you not to call them so why bother?
It's the same with the friends who say "I'll try to think of someone for you" every time they see you.
ReplyDeleteIf they really thought about you every time, chances are they'd have at least 1 suggestion a year...
I say that to people, and I do. Most of the time though, after I come up with an idea, I have a hard time convincing the other to go out with him/her.
DeleteJust because a woman claims to be a shadchan, does not mean she actually knows anybody. If they did, they would be eagerly calling you back to set you up, since every lady likes shadchanus.
ReplyDeleteI've experienced this more than once. They just ignore you because that would be less awkward for them to say, "Well, I just call myself a shadchan, but I only know my 10-year-old son's classmates. Do you like crayons?"