This post is for all the 'marrieds' out there, or atleast for people who might be able to explain for the marrieds.
You see, I'm the kinda gal who keeps in touch with her friends, no matter what status, single OR married. I speak to them once in a while, keeping in contact by phone, texting, emailing, etc. Obviously it's easier for the singles, as we don't have that busy of a schedule, no husband to tend to, no kids to worry about, etc. and a pretty open schedule (other than work, school & dating), but thank goodness I'm blessed with great friends that every so often I get to go out with the marrieds, who explain to their husband that a night off once in a while with a single friend is important for them (yay me!)
What I don't understand tho, is what's up with the marrieds? You know...the girls who as singles, were really close? Would call almost each day, get together daily if not a few times a week, and then they get engaged, get married and move and forget about you? No matter how much they promised as a single that they would be 'like those married girls who just dump you when they get married', they somehow forget about your existence.
Now, don't get me wrong, I understand what Shana Rishona must be like, especially when it's in a new city, new surroundings, jobs, school, a new person to share your life with, etc. so I don't need the daily or weekly phone calls, but when the married friend does come back home to visit her family, it would be great to catch up. Usually, it's a short phonecall or a visit, but lately, my newly marrieds have all managed to lose touch. To such an extreme that my married friend, Yocheved, who used to call me every so often, although it felt like she just wanted to catch up on missed gossip since she moved, and would throw in a 'how are you' perhaps once in the convo, came home to town last week. Now, let me just mention that Yocheved and I got to be friends through work. We worked at the same place and became close. We would speak very often and she would come over almost every Shabbos. So when I heard she was in town and didn't hear from her AT ALL, I thought somethin was up, but quickly dissed that idea. Then, when she passed by my house on a Shabbos afternoon, in broad daylight and pretended she didn't remember I lived here, it DID bother me. No, I didn't call her family, nor did I call her. I just pretended that I didn't know she was in town.
I just don't get what is up with marrieds? We're still friends. Nothing has changed. I mean, well, ya, you got a husband and maybe a kid or two, but why would that change our friendship to the point that I don't exist?
Can anyone here enlighten me?