Y'know the Tznius talk? The one all girls get in high school about covering the collar bone, the elbows, the knees, etc?
Well, apparently now the schools are adding some more pointers like no slinky skirts, and no kiki riki shirts as they are too fitted.
OK, so I don't agree on the slinkys & kikis, but I'm not 100% perfect and I don't have the 4 inches for my knees either.
I'm ok with it. Sure if a skirt is a bit too short, I will let down the hem, but if it's just covering my knee, I guess it's ok, unless I'm in the presence of a Rabbi or something, in which case, I pray there is a tablecloth somewhere to cover the rest of my knee, or someone to block out my 'untzniusness'.
But here's the thing, y'see, lately I go to weddings, Bar Mitzvahs, Kiddushim, etc. and see all these married women walking around looking well, like the women of desperate housewives (think Eva Longoria). They're all put together, wearing these awesome funky outfits, with nude colored skin tight shirts, or very fitted dressed, or slinky skirt/jumpers right at their knee, and they are dressed to kill. Of course, whilst they chat outside with the other marrieds, the men pass by and give them the elevator stare-I know I did a double take with some of those people. I just didn't think it was proper. Especially after being taught that women have to dress up and look good for their husbands and not for everyone else's husbands. I also couldn't understand why, even though you wanna look good, you wanna look like that kinda good infront of other people. But, in my naive mind, I just thought that these few women just needed attention and that perhaps they weren't getting it from their own husbands (maybe the hubbies were sports fans?) and therefore got dressed up like that just to be noticed.
Here's where it sorta gets odd: I recently bought this really funky pair of shoes. At first I fell in love with them in the store-like 'wear it out the store' type, but I was able to control myself enough to wait until I paid before putting them on. They're not prust, but they do have jean and leather and an awesome heel (the whole combination sounds prust, I know, but it's not) with a bow. I wore them this week and lemme tell you-I didn't think the shoes would be THAT obvious. I wore clothes that I've worn before, my hair & makeup was the same as it always was, but I realized the power of an awesome shoe. Strangers would slow down while I walked outta my car. People from the neighborhood would 'check me out' as they passed by. It felt weird with the people I knew (obviously they didn't know it was me until they saw and quickly drove away) checking me out, but then I sorta felt good about myself. It instilled confidence in me-as in, hey! I can look that good that people will double take, and take me seriously-as a woman.
So, as much as I thought it was 'piggish' on the men, I understand that men will be men. I didn't walk in any sorta suggestive way or anything, but I guess the shoes really make a diff!
Am I allowed to enjoy the attention from these heels, or should I feel bad about it?