I know I've mentioned this previously, but it still irks me each time I hear that comment.
I was out for my weekly coffee run when I overheard these 2 frum women talking. Honestly, I couldn't help it-as I was standing by the counter waiting for my macchiato, these women were talking really loud and were like 2 feet from me, if not closer.
One told the other that she was worried about her daughter, who is starting in Shidduchim and didn't get calls yet. It seemed, by the way she spoke that she had other married children who got married off right away and that this daughter of hers, was having a hard time. The other woman sympathized with her and mentioned that she too had a daughter in shidduchim, but older than the other woman's, as well as a niece on the market. Whilst both shared their pain and stories (with the entire coffee shop, let alone each other), they sighed. The second woman was saying how hard it was when she has to make phonecalls to Shadchanim for her daughter and they basically treat her like second hand trash and 'tell her off' for keeping her daughter single, whilst she said, that she was the one who looked into every single guy just to make sure they were on the basic step of 'suitable' and not even over the top. She went on explaining to the first woman, that half of the calls weren't even on the same religious level, let alone hashkafa, background, etc.
Honestly, I was beginning to feel for her-knowing that I'm literally living and going through the SAME THING. But then I turned aside a bit to see the first woman telling her, 'well, listen-you gotta PLAY THE GAME'. She then went on explaining how her daughter has tons of friends getting engaged and that the few of her married friends who came home from Israel on Pesach, all told her daughter to 'play the game', (aka LIE) because these married friends told her how unhappy they were in Israel and how miserable they were, but if they said they weren't interested in moving to Israel they would never be married. So, said woman #1, 'YOU GOTTA PLAY THE GAME"