Recently I was speaking to a friend of mine who got married this past year.
As most of married friend's go, the phonecalls dwindle down from 2 calls a day when they're single, to a few times a week or once a week when they're engaged, to once a month after they're married for first 3 months to once everytime they actually remember.
So this married friend called me and we chatted like good old times=forever, and she threw into the conversation how she is so busy these days. I joked with her about it, y'know taking care of someone else besides herself, new schedule to include cooking/cleaning, etc.
But seriously now-what do marrieds do that makes them sooo busy? too busy to even call a good friend once in a while!?
I don't know what most marrieds do, but here's what I do:
ReplyDelete-Work a 9 to 5 job which means I wake up at 7 and get home at 6
-Cook dinner, pack lunches for myself and my husband/ cook Shabbos
-Wash dishes
-Clean the house/ scrub toilets/ scrub showers
-Pay bills
-Go grocery shopping
-Go on date nights with my husband
-Read/ watch TV shows
It's a ton of work. Unlike when I was single, I don't share the apartment with 4 other roommates who can all pitch in their share and help out. Nor can I rely on a different roommate making Shabbos or everyone making one dish and creating a potluck meal. If I or my husband don't take care of things, then they simply won't happen...so we're busy.
My husband actually likes to spend time with me in the evenings so that is what we do.
ReplyDeleteand ditto to all the things that Chana said.
Before I was married I wondered the same thing. Now that I am married I still wonder the same thing. I don’t know; time just kind of disappears. I think the bulk of it has to do with schmoozing and just hanging out with your spouse after a long day. Also, you do have to take into account that studies have concluded that engaged and married people hemorrhage friends because of this: http://solelyinblackandwhite.blogspot.com/2010/09/engageds-lost-friends.html
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