Happy Post-Pesach y'all. Hoping you're all back into the normal swing of work and non-matzah/potatoes. YAY for Shlissel Challah week :)
So now that Pesach is behind us, I am officially back on shidduch call duties, which means that any guy(s) 'redd' to me before Yom Tov, can now be looked into. Especially now with people answering their phones and not being busy with family/cooking/outings, etc.
I was a bit nervous to get back into the swing of things, but a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do, right? (or as my frummie friends put it 'we have to do our Hishtadlus'). I did some research and tried to call some people, but I wasn't getting anywhere. Turns out no one knew this guy and the ones who did, haven't been in touch with him for years, etc. I wasn't feeling comfortable about the whole thing, until one reference mentioned that the guy knew 'so & so', who also happens to be a relative of mine. Ding, ding, ding,-we have a winner. I thanked Hashem for that reference's moment of verbal diarrhea and quickly dialed my relative. Grant you, we haven't been in touch in ages, but 'bound by blood' is better than none, right?
Anyway unfortunately for me, the relatives didn't really know the guy at all, only saw him once, which was a pity as they couldn't really answer any of my questions, nor tell me alot about the guy. I was frustrated but then I realized-even if they only saw this guy ONCE, atleast they can tell me how he looks. So, I did what any girl would do in my situation-I asked if they can tell me how he looks?
The answer I got, and I quote you all 'he has two arms & two legs-he's a guy'
Was I disappointed? VERY
Should I be concerned? perhaps
Now, why is it that people can't just say 'short/tall, skinny/fat, hair/bald, etc.' I'm not asking for a detailed description going from eye color, to weight, to waste size. Just a small sum up. Sheesh! I know there are some men (& very few women) who canNOT for the life of them describe people-those I don't even ask. But I figured, both of these relatives saw him, just once, they knew who I was asking about-what is the big deal?
or maybe I should be happy the guy has all his limbs intact?
Should I have asked if he was a cross-dresser or do you think that's a bit too much?
Help me out here fellow singles, am I insane or is it so hard to describe how a guy looks?!?