We live in the age of technology. Everything is internet. Everything is smart phones. It's all about WiFi, 4G, data plans, etc. More and more Shidduchim have moved from phone information which you had to write down yourself, to typed up resumes being faxed to emailed resumes to shidduch websites popping up. There was even a webcam dating service which was started a few years back (though I don't remember the name and I'm not even sure it took off). Shadchanim who I used to call, don't even answer their phones anymore. Answering machines notify the caller to either email or text the message and not to leave any voicemails.Yet, although I don't agree with not being able to actually speak to someone in terms of redding a shidduch or calling for information, etc. when it's a quick message from a shadchan like 'he'll be picking you up at 7pm', then a text just makes sense (especially whilst you're rushing home to grab a shower, get your nails done and do your hair!).
So, it should come to no surprise that text-dating has become the norm. I remember when I started dating and the shadchanim would ask if I prefer the boy calls before/during or not. I don't think it mattered that much, each guy was different. Some called, some didn't. Some calls were just a 5 minute discussion to set up a time and place, whilst others were 1-2 hours just to 'talk' and 'get to know each other'. Some boys were really talkative, others were able to hold communication, some had those awkward silence moments and some were just not talkative. Yet, I myself find it much easier to communicate through emails/texting. It's easier to be more open, to 'say things you wouldn't normally actually SAY', to express yourself when you don't actually have to SAY it, and when you don't see the person or their reaction. Look at this blog for instance, it's so much easier to say things here than to speak it out. The fact that more and more dates are turning to texting to not only give minor details of the date but instead of the phone calls, is an interesting leap. It brings people closer in a shorter amount of time. It allows people to be more open and express themselves more easily without the awkward silences, without the annoying noise or disturbances, even whilst hanging out with friends and taking a small walk to text whatever it is.
Just wondering if there is a downside? I haven't actually text dated. I've texted and I've dated, but not together. I would miss out on the body language, the sound of the person's voice, the way they would react, the silences or speaking after I would say something.
What's your opinion?