But hey, what can I say? I'm basing this on my experience with American boys and DISCLAIMER: not all American frum single guys are like this, but the most of the ones I know or dated have been, so I'm basing this solely on my personal experiences with them.
So here's the situation: single out of town gals, such as myself, often get 'redd' to boys, most of whom are American, a handful of Canadians and for those lucky-some Europeans. I've been fortunate enough to call myself an International Dater. My experiences with all these boys from all around the globe has been wonderful, in that I got to know the different mentalities, upbringing, etc. all of which are not strictly due to their residences, but families/communities as well.
In any case, if I would have to sum up the 'shidduch procedure' for the typical American, here's how it goes.
Shadchan calls/emails/faxes asking for girl's resume.
girls sends resume
Shadchan calls, asks girl to edit resume, taking out things she believes boy would NOT appreciate and adding things that he might.
girl edits and sends.
Shadchan calls informing girl that guy requests photo
girl is hesitant and explains that she hasn't done this before, or only sent it once she checked into the boy
Shadchan speaks to boy, informs girl that THIS boy ALWAYS gets full resumes of loads of girls, along with 2 photos; one full length-one up close and without one, there is nothing to talk about.
girl finally gives in, sends in 2 photos.
girl waits 1 week
girl waits another week
by week 2.5, girl builds up courage and calls shadchan
Shadchan said she sent boy resume as well as photos and he said based on photos she's not what he's 'looking for'
boy & girl continue in Shidduch world....so does shadchan :)
Which brings me to my next post-a more positive post!