It's always awkward meeting up with the old married classmates. I mean, I consider myself a very outgoing and social person. I am B"H blessed with many wonderful friends, some new, and some from ages back who have kept in touch throughout the years. All in all though, I can't say I've had much of a personality change. I'm the same kid from high school who was the comic relief. I'm the girl who still shys away from the intimidating people and who laughs at everything else.
Yet-when I pass by the old marrieds, I guess it freaks them out a bit-seeing one of who they used to be, one of their kind, who still hasn't moved on. I see it in their eyes-the pity, the sadness. I hear it in the commencement of their conversation, with their 'oy nebach' sighs. And of course the "but really, how ARE you?" questions.
Then there are the ones who suggest you the only single guy they know of who is in his late 40s, divorced twice, only has kids from the first wife who lives overseas and he has nothing to do with. Who also sports a pot belly and is a bit bald but really sweet and will really take care of his spouse.
Sheesh, each time Yom Tov comes around I sorta dread meeting up with my old classmates. Either they think my singledom is some kinda disease and suddenly they don't know how to act or what to say. Or they suggest the most offensive and insulting suggestions because they don't have any actual suggestions.
In order to avoid the awkwardness, I'm thinking of coming to Shul next Yom Tov wearing a sandwich sign that says 'please do not disturb-I don't talk during Davening and/or whilst I'm in Shul'.