Thursday, August 4, 2011

Why not 'Revisit'?

I can't believe it's August already and I feel like I NEED A VACATION!
y'know how shadchanim are always telling you (or is it just me that they tell?) how boys are 'burnt out' and are 'taking a break' from shidduchim, etc. How come girls can't ever take breaks? I tried it once and I get why it's not a good idea (look at it from a diff. point of view and you will see why) but everyone needs a breather....which is why I'm spending my evenings looking up vacation spots-as the minute tisha b'av is out, I'm outta here! the meantime, the sad reality is that currently my status is still 'single', dry-as-a-fly, minus the 'plus one' in attendance, 1/2 of a whole, pathetic soul, etc.
Which means, I gotta keep smiling at people, answering the same questions (are you picky or what?) and looking all prim and proper. and even so, I still get the calls:
"Hi SOS, my name is Mrs. ___, I'm a Shadchan from this Shidduch group. Anyway, your name was mentioned and it seems like 4 out of the 5 people in the group either heard about you, or set you up. Which is how I came to calling you. Apparently _____ was 'redd' to you before and you went out. We know because when Mrs. ___ mentioned his name for you, she immediately emailed the boy who emailed back that you dated years back but YOU said no. So perhaps, since he sounded interested and you're BOTH STILL SINGLE, you may want to REVISIT this boy? Y'know I know atleast THREE couples that are married now that dated once and called it off the first time because it wasn't for them but then years later it came back and they both went out and are happily married. YOU NEVER KNOW (heavy NY accent), it may just be Bashert and you're both sooo similar."
ya, I feel like getting the 'recycled' guys and then getting pushed into saying yes because honestly, I can't remember why I said no at the time, is just making me more upset. It looks to me like these people are saying 'hey girl, everyone out there your age is married already, so either marry someone who is divorced, widowed or recycle the ones you dated in the first place. By now, one of those should be up to your likings'
humph...while everyone is telling me to 'revisit' my old options and look through my books, the only place I'm thinkin of revisiting right now is DisneyWorld!
Anyone wanna join? (perhaps there'll be some fun frum guys there and it may just be the place I needed to revisit in order to find my bashert)


  1. lol u never know!!

  2. keep thinking positive!!

  3. There's this new group on facebook called "Nu, let's set them up" that looks like it has potential.

    I learned about this through Yedid Nefesh.

    Come visit at least ;)