Whilst chewing on some licorice (yay! there actually still IS chametz nosh around here) I had the following epiphany. I figured out how to phrase my reasoning in my search for my future hubby.
You see, most Shadchanim aka pushypeople, aka yenta yachnes aka INURFACE people-who-don't get-the-hint-when-you-say-no will try and continue to convince some of us singles that what we are looking for doesn't exist-hence the reason for us (still) being single.
Each time I get told, it just gets me more angry. Duh! I'm single because I haven't found my Bashert yet, who are YOU to give me a specific reason? Seriously?! who ARE these people who keep telling us what we are looking for DOESN'T exist. It seems there are lotsa girls I know, who all married the 'type' I'm looking for, so obviously they DO exist.
So here's the problem aka 'what I'm looking for' (which they say doesn't exist): I'm looking for a nice guy, a mentch, with a great smile, lotsa personality, frum, black hat, goes to a shiur each day/night and works or is in school-whatever as long as it is something he's doing that he enjoys (hopefully), y'know the old fashioned 'Torah im Derech Eretz'. Not too extremist in any sorta category and is open-minded and doesn't freak out when I say FM radio/internet/tv, etc.
Here's my newly founded response when they say it doesn't exist-which by the way, now that I think about it-i can send them databases of guys like that=I dated loads of them...anyway...
'You see, everyone is out there, searching for a mate. Most, (as is claimed) are looking for learning boys. Either 1 year, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years-whatever so long as they are learning. It is pretty common out there and there are so many yeshivos/kollelim, so there are lots of guys to go around. I, on the other hand, am not looking for the 'usual' (so is claimed) guy, I'm looking for the old-fashioned type, or as I like to say a 'collectors item' sort aka a limited edition. We all know limited editions are more special and therefore harder to find. They're definitely out there, just few and far between and there is a high price to pay for limited editions, as usually they are kept in great condition (anyone say 6pack? jk)'.
So, ya, Mrs. Shadchan-I'm looking for a limited edition, keep your common(ers) for the other girls out there!