Here's the scene: I was at the restaurant late last night and there were 2 other groups there. The group to my right was a bunch of 18 year old sem girls, laughing, loud, hyper, etc. The other group was 3 sophisticated women in their mid-thirties. Oddly enough I knew everyone there, but not in the way that I would walk on over and say hi. Heck, not even in the way of waving & smiling. Sure, I knew who they were, but I knew about them more than I actually knew them.
In any case, the strange thing is that in both groups of girls/women there was a Kallah who had gotten engaged in the last week/few weeks. Yes, the 18 year old sem girl had gotten engaged a few days earlier and the mid-thirty year old 2 weeks before. I heard both stories of 'how they got engaged' told one time too many. Actually, come to think of it I heard the story about the mid-thirty year old many more times than the 18 year old, as it was a bigger deal, and people seemed "so much happier" (relieved) for her.
So, here they were, 2 very different types of girls, of a major age difference and at different stages of life.
I had a thought to wish the 18 year old Mazel Tov, as she was nearer, but then I realized I should also wish the mid-thirty. I didn't want it to be awkward for either, but that was soon to be taken care of, as one of the mid-thirty marrieds got up and started the 20 questions on engagement and the deal was done.
Then I realized, the mid-thirty year old probably got all the 'I'm ssssooooo happy for you....was sooooo excited to hear such good news....FINALLY.....we were soooo worried....'etc. wishes whilst the 18 year old got the "WOW-AMAZING, UNBELIEVEABLE" wishes. One got the pity, nebach whilst the other got the true rants.
Who deserves which?
Well, I'm not 18 anymore-I sure hope I'm not the pity Mazel Tov.
Invisible cloak to lend, anyone?