Thursday, November 10, 2011

The NASI Project

Correct me if I'm wrong, cuz I don't exactly have the exact facts & figures about this Nasi program, but I've definitely been hearing about the whole controversy since they last advertised.
Personally, I stopped reading the Yated, Hamodia, Jewish Press, etc. not because of anything specific (I got into chicflicks!) so I heard about this from family and friends and I'm upset about it.
I think that however nice and thoughtful it is that people are getting together and forming organizations to try and help the singles get married, the fact that money is involved-and by money I mean that they decide, dependent on the single's age, etc. how much one should pay, is disgusting.
Whilst, I agree that everyone who works in the field of shidduchim works hard, whether the date continues on or doesn't even happen, and yes, they should get paid, personally, I think this whole money issue is sick. Here's why:
If a couple, nebech, has been married a while and wasn't yet Blessed with children and obviously, they did whatever they can, went around for Brachos, seen doctors, etc. and they go to one Frum organization willing to help these couples and the organization tells them 'well, we can TRY, there are no guarantees, but if your childless for 5+ years you gotta pay $1000, and if your childless for 7+ years, you gotta pay $1500, etc. doesn't that leave a bad taste in their mouth? The organization is totally taking advantage of someone else's pain, AND without any guarantees. All these people who so-call 'volunteer' for these things are not, in my eyes, volunteers, they are busy putting prices on our pain!
Imagine a family with 3-4 kids on the market, all within 1-2 years age difference=they will pay so much money and for what?
Aside from the fact that there is a Halachic obligation to pay Shadchanus, which I believe, most people pay and they pay whatever they feel is the correct amount or whatever they can afford.
So, basically, the fact that people who say they wanna help and put a price on my age (based on all the misery I've been through, all the comments I get from people at Chasunas, or wherever, all the horrible dates, all the Shadchan interviews, the long trips to NY or wherever the guy has been, etc. and the price gets higher the longer you've been in the system) I think it's just wrong.
A human being cannot decide to price a person based on age, never mind based on anything else. My husband to be is priceless, this experience is priceless and all the 'volunteers, shadchans, family, friends, shidduch-redders', they are just a Shliach of Hashem.

6 comments:

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    i have 1/2 dozen very good looking never married guys with good jobs and few good lookers who are learners....and some that do both....but i have NO quality girls who are slim and attractive...does anyone know where to find these never married nonsmoking girls? contact me and lets talk...ashrei108@aol.com

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