tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post5909028904870989604..comments2023-05-31T03:25:43.316-04:00Comments on Surfin the Shidduch Scene: Does Being Nice Mean You're Interested?Single on the Scenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04848405298234990241noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-35862751029016228522012-12-26T08:39:14.294-05:002012-12-26T08:39:14.294-05:00I do exactly the same thing as you. I always treat...I do exactly the same thing as you. I always treat my dates with respect. As Rabbi Yisrael of Ruzhin said, treating everyone like a mentch is the fifth part of Shulchan Aruch.<br /><br />It kinda got me into problems with the shadchan of one of my previous shidduchim. She was furious at me for saying no. "What? The girl is super enthusiastic. She says everything went very well." When my mom told the shadchan I was really not into it, she responded that something was wrong with me and I needed counseling. Haha I mean WTH, what was I supposed to do? Be super rude and break it up after 30 minutes? <br /><br />I wasn't overly friendly. I was just being myself.Bochurnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-55570770187091504572012-12-25T16:59:43.760-05:002012-12-25T16:59:43.760-05:00I'm a guy. I believe there is a medium though....I'm a guy. I believe there is a medium though. If your mind is made up, then be polite and cordial, but not sweet and flirtatious. There's a difference. Don't have to ignore or be rude but not ultra friendly either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-13952242888219525012012-12-25T07:15:06.204-05:002012-12-25T07:15:06.204-05:00If I can add a male perspective.
I think this dep...If I can add a male perspective. <br />I think this depends a little bit on what the first date involves. This is why I prefer first dates to be simple, a walk in the park, a cup of coffee etc. That way if after a half hour its obviously not going anywhere either party can simply say, thank you, nice to meet you and have a nice day. <br /><br />If the date is coming in from out of town, I think its a little bit of a different story. Josh Josephsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-11047221994344057462012-12-24T11:03:35.790-05:002012-12-24T11:03:35.790-05:00It must be a Hungarian thing; I do the same. I'...It must be a Hungarian thing; I do the same. I'm light, bubbly, and adorable, while my insides are screaming "Let me out of here!" That's how I was raised; keeping it together and polite until the evening thankfully ends. Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-12837284683678168412012-12-21T12:45:27.393-05:002012-12-21T12:45:27.393-05:00I really appreciate your gesture. I know that man...I really appreciate your gesture. I know that many people don't realize that using the word can be inconsiderate, and I thank you for what you did.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-79503188580419178842012-12-20T00:02:08.421-05:002012-12-20T00:02:08.421-05:00Anon-as a follow up to my comment above-I would li...Anon-as a follow up to my comment above-I would like to let you know that I did a search for all posts over the past 3 (soon to be 4) years and guess what? The word only appeared 4 times. I have removed it completely and hope to discontinue use/reference of that word in the future.Single on the Scenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848405298234990241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-64605241474835579132012-12-19T23:56:44.655-05:002012-12-19T23:56:44.655-05:00Anon-I apologize for the fact that I've used t...Anon-I apologize for the fact that I've used the word 'retarded' in the past. I understand it may have offended people, and obviously don't mean it in such a manner. Yes, I am human, and I'm trying to work on myself, but what can I say, other than I am working on myself and do my best to use other words (insane?) in its place. Like many habits, these things take time and I'm not perfect. I will try and go through my entire blog and replace all the 'retarded' words. I don't think that makes me an impolite person..it's a mistake, an honest mistake. I'm sorry to have offended you Single on the Scenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848405298234990241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-75409885651511224222012-12-19T23:17:22.263-05:002012-12-19T23:17:22.263-05:00You're not polite on your blog. You use the w...You're not polite on your blog. You use the word "retarded" in a disparaging manner.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-90621028687968657792012-12-19T16:35:02.471-05:002012-12-19T16:35:02.471-05:00Do not waste your time or the time of the men you ...Do not waste your time or the time of the men you date.Mr. Cohenhttp://groups.yahoo.com/group/DerechEmet/noreply@blogger.com