tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post5575839390407013421..comments2023-05-31T03:25:43.316-04:00Comments on Surfin the Shidduch Scene: When Guys were First...Single on the Scenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04848405298234990241noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-90126370744295657292012-08-20T09:19:53.293-04:002012-08-20T09:19:53.293-04:00Wow, only 800 years ago? So recently?
My opinion...Wow, only 800 years ago? So recently? <br /><br />My opinion is that the shidduch system has been completely railroaded by those to whom it does not come naturally. Parents who met on their own are taking it on, but they don't get the hulach-heileich. <br /><br />And one of the basic rules of the shidduch system is to ask the boy first. It is known. And it was great. <br /><br />Now, everyone is terrified of the boys (for some odd reason) and call me up to ask me first. For that effort, couldn't you have called him? Or they say, "I have a boy in mind for you. Send me your info?" Then I hear nothing from them. <br /><br />As the next in line after quite a few generations who met via a third party, I am annoyed. The shidduch system has mutated into something unrecognizable, in more than one way. Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-27985827054829363032012-08-19T23:22:02.492-04:002012-08-19T23:22:02.492-04:00Remember back in the day when guys used to be able...Remember back in the day when guys used to be able to approach girls directly, without <i>shadchanim</i>?<br /><br />Contrary to what many "<i>Frum</i>" people believe, this is not a sin; <i>shadchanim</i> did not become popular until around 800 years ago when The Crusades tore apart numerous Jewish communities.<br />Mr. Cohenhttp://groups.yahoo.com/group/DerechEmet/noreply@blogger.com