tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post4759567318510255012..comments2023-05-31T03:25:43.316-04:00Comments on Surfin the Shidduch Scene: Tools without RulesSingle on the Scenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04848405298234990241noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-45492870447950132872013-11-04T09:33:38.423-05:002013-11-04T09:33:38.423-05:00I love this post, it is so non-judgmental.I love this post, it is so non-judgmental.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7959111291997881512.post-16393565007911142022013-11-03T21:51:43.979-05:002013-11-03T21:51:43.979-05:00Oy. About a year ago I had to attend a Bar Mitzva ...Oy. About a year ago I had to attend a Bar Mitzva made by a "modern orthodox" family (I was working for the families business at the time). I had a very similar experience. I was there with a non jewish co worker who was dressed more appropriately that 3/4 of the women there. She was all confused as to why there was no mechitza and mixed dancing. What was pathetic was that in the middle, they got a call that the wife's grandfather was on his way, and suddenly they pulled out a mechitza, so that he wouldnt have to see what was going on...<br /><br />All in all, we are pretty much screwed. Most people have accepted that sort of behavior as just ok / where we are holding today. Good girls no longer feel it a problem to wear skirts that are "just" above the knees. It is excused because "everyone does it" or "they have a beautiful neshama". (Side issue: it is something that has given me a hard time when dating, as I dont date those girls, and have turned down girls after one date for a skirt slightly too short, even if everything else is "good". Friends of mine are having the same issue. Talk about exasperating the "shidduch crises").<br /><br />Part of the issue is that everyone has become way too into being tolerant and accepting. While they are beautiful traits, people also have to realize that being accepting of a person does not mean you have to accept their behavior, and definitely dont have to accept their standards as your own. In the effort to be open and tolerant, everyone has given up the things they used to hold dear and important, leaving us where we are today: screwed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com